Hi, I'm Nate.

People often tell me the same thing after we've talked for a while:

"I've never been asked that before."

To me, that's one of the greatest compliments I can receive.

Because I don't believe the most important work happens when we have all the answers. I think it happens when someone encounters a question that helps them see themselves, their community, or their work in a completely new way.

Everything I do—writing, storytelling, leadership development, design, ministry, and strategy—begins there.

Why questions?

My family used to call me Señorita Pregunta—"Miss Question."

Long before I had language for being trans, disabled, or a storyteller, I had questions.

I wanted to know why people believed what they believed. Why some stories endured while others disappeared. Why one person felt at home while another spent their life searching for belonging.

Looking back, I don't think I was collecting answers as much as I was learning to notice.

And I've been practicing that kind of noticing ever since.

What do I keep noticing?

The more people I meet, the less interested I become in having the right answers.

Instead, I find myself noticing patterns.

  • The stories we inherit.

  • The assumptions we stop questioning.

  • The people history forgets.

  • The quiet work of building belonging.

  • The moments when someone finally feels seen.

Those patterns have become the compass for everything I write, design, build, and teach.

What makes a good question?

Over the years, I've learned that the best questions aren't designed to impress people.

They're designed to make room.

Room for someone to remember something they had forgotten.
Room for a community to see itself more clearly.
Room for an idea that didn't have language yet.

The questions I return to again and again aren't complicated:

  • Who isn't being seen?

  • What story are we taking for granted?

  • What becomes possible if we begin somewhere else?

Those questions have shaped nearly everything I've built since.

Where have my questions taken me?

Over the years, those questions have led me into classrooms, newsrooms, nonprofit organizations, conference halls, faith communities, and countless conversations around kitchen tables.

Sometimes I've been invited to write. Sometimes to design, organize, facilitate, or build. More often than not, I've been invited to help people find language for something they already knew was true but hadn't yet found the words to express.

I'm grateful for every invitation.

What happens when we work together?

  • Nehemiah D. "Neo" Frank

    FOUNDER AND EDITOR-IN-CHIEF OF THE BLACK WALL STREET TIMES

    “I really appreciate your advocacy and leadership. It is so refreshing.”

  • Teresa Morcho

    FOUNDER OF STUD+

    “I’ve been doing this for a long time, and I rarely find myself speechless, but today you managed to do just that.”

  • Tim'm West

    EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR OF THE RUSTIN INSTITUTE

    “Thank you for believing in this vision. Thank you for investing in it—not just with your time and talent, but with your trust.”

  • Rev. Jami A. Yandle

    UUA’S TRANSGENDER SUPPORT SPECIALIST

    “You’re a badass. You have such an eye for detail. I am so excited to quote you and your future books.”

  • Bishop Tonyia Rawls

    FOUNDER OF THE FREEDOM CENTER FOR SOCIAL JUSTICE

    “Thank you for holding space for my story as I enter this new transition into retirement.”

  • Rev. Dr. Kimi Floyd Reisch

    UUA’S LGBTQ AND MULTICULTURAL PROGRAMS DIRECTOR

    “I had this vision for our trans religious professionals retreat and you were able to bring it to life in a way I never expected.”